In my opinion, stonewalling is the most misunderstood of the 4 Horsemen. It can also be one of the most difficult patterns to identify...

Of all of the 4 Horsemen, Dr. Gottman refers to contempt as the deadliest of them all. Dr. Gottman calls it the most destructive behavior...

All About Defensiveness: The second of the 4 Horsemen in defensiveness. It is often brought on by the first of the horsemen, which is...

Managing perpetual problems (see previous blog post) requires effective dialogue. Part of what makes dialogue effective vs ineffective...

Dr. Gottman, a researcher and psychologist, contributed extensively to our understanding about what it is that really makes some couples...